Been enrolled for a week-long course in happiness with Andrew Matthews and here is what he has to say for today…
Hi Cai,
FORGIVING PEOPLE
Where do we get the idea that if WE don’t forgive people, THEY suffer?
It’s nuts!
Let’s say:
a) You are my boss and you give me the sack, or
b) You are my girl and you run off with my best friend.
So I say, “I’ll NEVER forgive you!”
Who suffers?
NOT YOU!
I get the knot in my stomach.
I lose the sleep.
You are probably out partying!
While I resent you, I SUFFER!
Meanwhile I tell myself, “I’m right!”
But being “RIGHT” doesn’t guarantee happiness.
Here’s the point …
To forgive someone, you don’t have to AGREE with what they did.
You just have to want your life to work.
